Summer is here. The kids might be looking forward to lazy days, sleeping in and not having to worry about homework, projects or tests, but that’s not always the best strategy for a successful summer.
It is known that all kids do better with a routine and structure. It is even more important to kids with anxiety, ADHD, autism or other mental health diagnoses.
Here are some strategies to help keep your family on track this summer so everyone can enjoy this fleeting season.
Set Realistic Expectations
We get frustrated when our expectations aren’t met. Setting unrealistic expectations for your schedule or your kids can lead to disappointment and frustration. Expecting your schedule to remain the same in the summer isn’t possible, so you’ll need to make some changes.
Stick to a Routine
While the summer routine will likely look different than during the school year, it’s still important to have a routine. A daily rhythm helps everyone know what to expect and what’s coming next. That predictability and consistency is comforting and creates more calm in the house.
Make Plans, But Not Too Many
It can be tempting to say YES to all the invites, camps, BBQs and vacations. But if you aren’t careful, the entire family can quickly become overwhelmed. Instead, try to plan the most important things first. Planned vacations, camps, visitors, etc. Add them to the calendar so everyone knows what’s happening when. Then take other spontaneous invites on a case-by-case basis. Remember that it’s OK to say no!
Get Outdoors
The summer is a great time to spend more time outside. Spending time outside has tremendous health benefits, including boosting your immune system and improving mental health. Build time outdoors into your daily routine—morning bike rides, trips to the beach, or evening strolls through the neighborhood are all great for the entire family.
Create a Summer Bucket List
Sit down as a family to create a list of things you want to do as a family. Letting everyone weigh in on the list helps create buy-in from everyone. The list doesn’t have to be over the top—it can be simple things you normally do during the summer. Having a visual list that can be checked off gives a sense of accomplishment and helps on the days you’re looking for something to do.
Schedule Quiet/Alone Time for Everyone
Everyone in the family will benefit from having their own time to unwind and decompress. It’s important for everyone to have a break from activities (and from each other). Make it a point to establish some quiet time each day to help sustain your energy throughout the summer.
Be Flexible
This might be the most important tip. Summer has a way of testing our flexibility. Having a summer “plan” doesn’t mean everything will go as planned. Having perspective and expecting plans to change will help you stay calm, reduce frustration, and ultimately make the summer more enjoyable.
Summer is a time for fun, but we know it can be overwhelming for adults and kids alike. Be sure to take time to care for yourself and create a plan for summer that works best for your family.
Maaliea Wilbur, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, is Founder and CEO of TherapyWorks. For more information, visit mytherapyworks.com.
