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RJ Kindred is the kind of person you want to be when you grow up. A determined athlete and dedicated community member, he has woven his way through a lifetime of education in the San Lorenzo Valley, and emerged from the other side with an eye on serving his community. It’s this spirit and determination that resulted in Kindred ending his senior year in high school with not only a diploma, but a raft of awards and scholarships. Each is meaningful to the SLV grad, but his heart was most moved with the award of the Jack DeBord Memorial Scholarship. The $20,000 gift ($5,000 over four years) means that Kindred can pursue his goals of working in the fire service, but it means so much more than that to this well-spoken young man. “I knew Jack on the football field,” says Kindred. “He was a hard-working kid that everyone liked and respected. When we were doing our summer training for football, we’d all work out together, but then the coaches would split is up into our positions on the team. Jack was going to be the starting JV football quarterback, and I was lined up to be the starting varsity quarterback, so we worked together pretty closely. He was just an awesome kid—smart, funny, driven, super hard worker. Everyone loved him.” At the first home football game at SLVHS with Scotts Valley High School in August of 2019 following Jack’s death, SLVHS Principal Jeff Calden read the following statement: “Our two communities shared a loss this summer, and we want to recognize that Scotts Valley resident, and San Lorenzo Valley High School student athlete, our friend, Jack DeBord, isn’t here with us tonight. We lost Jack to suicide in June, and to those students who are here tonight, know that you are loved, that there is no shame in asking for help, and that each of your lives is meaningful.” Those words were shared again in the presentation of the scholarship to Kindred in a video that can be found at https://youtu.be/Bf2jG7uXDxA. Jack’s parents, Katalin and Jim, were both pleased that Kindred was the inaugural recipient of the scholarship. “After Jack’s death, it very quickly became apparent to my husband that he wanted to do something to honor Jack and bring awareness to suicide prevention. We couldn’t have been more caught off guard by Jack’s decision to take his life. Our faith in Jesus Christ is the only thing that is sustaining us through such a devastating loss.” Indeed, the family has embraced Romans 8:28: And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose. “This is a reflection of the Lord taking an awful situation and bringing good out of it,”says Katalin. “Jack had the world by the tail,” says Jim DeBord. “He excelled at everything he ever tried. He had a long list of outstanding accomplishments, but his character was at the top.” The DeBord family worked with the Community Foundation of Santa Cruz County (CFSCC) to establish a scholarship in Jack’s name. “We had three things in mind after Jack’s death,” says Jim. “We wanted to be bold in our faith, highlight suicide awareness and prevention, and keep Jack’s name alive, so we set up this scholarship to honor him and benefit the community. He was super attached to the SLV community,” says Jim, his voice cracking. “Our only parameters for the recipient were that the winner had to be an SLVHS senior and a student athlete,” says Katalin, “and we’re really grateful that RJ was the awardee.” Jim is equally pleased. “I saw the video published by CFSCC naming RJ as the recipient, and it was unbelievably moving. RJ’s statement regarding Jack is a testament to our son’s character.” It came as a tremendous shock to Kindred, and the SLVHS football family, when DeBord committed suicide in June of 2019. “It was just a really bad time.” The recollection of those times may be part of Kindred’s drive to serve his community in the fire service. Kindred spent two years in the Boulder Creek Fire Department’s Internship Program (participants must be in their junior or senior year of high school), and walked away with invaluable lessons that he hopes to apply to his line of work. “I’m going to start Cabrillo in the fall, and then, I want to transfer to a four-year college in Idaho or Montana and pursue a degree in fire science, and I want to come back here and work as close to the valley as possible. This is my home.” A portion of Kindred’s winning essay for the DeBord scholarship: “This past summer a friend, teammate, and someone that pushed me to be my best every day, passed away. He was only fifteen years old and he took his own life. His name was Jack Debord. He was the quarterback of the JV team and I was the quarterback for varsity. He was only a sophomore, but he was incredible. Everything he did was effortless and perfect. Nobody knew how he did it. When he threw, the ball had the tightest spiral and his powerful clean form was flawless. He was extremely special and [I wish] he knew the impact he had on me and everyone around him. For our football team, we…have workouts [where] we go against each other and compete for time or reps. One…time he beat me and our head coach came over to me and said, “Jack is beating you!” and told me that he was better than me. That right there lit a fire under me and pushed me to a new extreme. That off-season extra work helped me become 1st team All League Safety and MVP of our school team. He not only affected people in the weight room but also on the field and at school. He is the kind of kid everyone wants to be and be around. Jack had the smarts, the athletic ability, and the perfect relationship with his friends and girlfriend. He was something out of a book or movie.” If you would like to contribute to the Jack Debord Memorial Scholarship fund, contact the Community Foundation of Santa Cruz County at cfscc.org. 

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On the golf course, it doesn’t matter who you are or where you come from. Once you pay your green fee and step inside the ropes, you’ve entered a shared space, and whether you realize it or not, opted into a collective action agreement — a sacred pact dating back centuries. Everybody must do their part to avoid the “Tragedy of the Commons” and preserve the beauty and sanctity of the golf course.Some of these obligations are maintenance responsibilities, which include replacing divots, fixing ball marks, and raking bunkers. Imagine how poor the conditions would be if no one did their part. Greens would be bumpy and covered in ugly dead spots, the fairways littered with divots, and the bunkers unplayable wastelands of ruts and footprints. Like a camping trip or a beach day, good stewards leave no trace of their visit.In addition to course maintenance, the collective action agreement also obligates golfers to follow certain rules of etiquette. While golf is an individual sport, it is played in the company of others. On the first tee, golfers shake hands with one another and wish each other a good round. They stand very still and quiet while others are playing their shots. On the green, they are careful not to walk across other players’ lines. Golfers never root for another player to mess up. This is a lesson that I teach my juniors right away — beat the course, not other players.If you are an inherently competitive person, it is easy to become caught up in your own game and let your behavior and actions interfere with those around you. From the PGA guide on course etiquette, “Displays of frustration are one thing, but outbursts of temper are quite another. Yelling, screaming, throwing clubs or otherwise making a fool of yourself are unacceptable and, in some cases, dangerous to yourself and others.” It’s also worth noting that such displays do nothing to improve your game.Pace of play is an important component of etiquette and often an area of contention on the golf course. Much like driving on Highway 9, in golf, you can only go as fast as the person in front of you. Because of this, the collective action agreement requires golfers to either keep pace with the group ahead, or let faster groups play through. There are many actions golfers can take to avoid slow play.Arrive at the course at least ten minutes prior to your tee time, so you can begin on time. Move at a reasonable pace between shots. Walk directly to your ball and be ready to play when it is your turn. One of the biggest time wasters I see is golfers taking excessive practice swings. Limit yourself to one or two. It should only take 30 to 45 seconds from the time you select your club until you hit the ball. As you approach the green, leave your equipment in a place that is in route to the next hole and grab only the clubs you need to finish the hole. Once everyone is on the putting surface, the player whose ball is closest to the hole removes or tends the flagstick. The first person who makes their putt should pick up the flagstick and be ready to place it in the cup after everyone has finished.Mark Twain called golf “a good walk spoiled” and it can certainly seem that way if you are uncomfortable with how to behave on the course, or feel like you’re being rushed. But if you take a step back from your own game to gain perspective on how your actions are part of the collective whole, it becomes much easier to find your place and your pace on the course.